Book Review: Worthy of Her Trust (What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back)

Few challenges in life are as difficult as regaining a wife’s trust—and few are as ultimately worthwhile. Trust can be rebuilt in your marriage! With patient, loving, self-sacrificing effort, it’s possible that one day your wife will risk her heart with you again. And she may even have more respect and love for you than before.

In Worthy of Her Trust, Jason Martinkus relates how he repaired his own marriage after revelations of sexual addiction. Along with Stephen Arterburn, Jason offers exercises and tools rooted in counseling principles to help your marriage begin again. This comprehensive guide discusses: 

• How to be truly and effectively transparent 
• ·Combating the “he must not love me” myth and other untruths
• What to do about the Internet, office temptations, and travel
• Encouragement for wives who wonder if trust can ever be restored 
• The “five-minute phone call” and other daily trust-building strategies
• What meaningful forgiveness and restitution look like
• The Amends Matrix—a concrete exercise to admit past wrongs and cast a vision for a faithful future

Including insights from Jason’s wife, Shelley, Worthy of Her Trust guides you through the process of rebuilding your relationship so it is stronger than ever.

Now here are my thoughts. . .

What I liked: Overall I enjoyed the book. I highly recommend this book to an couple that has or is experiencing infidelity and sexual sin in their marriage. Jason is transparent with his transgressions and strategies helped restore their marriage. I really liked the five-minute call rule and the T-30 Journal exercise.

Here are few points Jason made that I highlighted. . .

"There can be authentic forgiveness by the violated party, but if there's no true repentance and change on the violator's part, trust will remain elusive."

Rebuilding trust requires you to be forgivable, regardless of whether she is willing to forgive."

"We can choose our own road to instant gratification and pleasure, or we can lean into God, practice faith, and allow him to be enough for us."

Purchase your copy of Worthy of Her Trust here.